What Is Stealth Attraction?
Stealth Attraction is a dating program released in 2009 by Richard La Ruina, better known by his PUA name “Gambler.”
Stealth Attraction is focused on one area of dating and pickup – Nightclub Game. More specifically, it’s about learning how to approach hot women at nightclubs or parties. It teaches you how to stealthily make them feel attracted to you, and then take them home with you that same night.
Stealth Attraction is not unlike the “granddaddy” of all PUA products, The Game by Neil Strauss. Its “unique selling proposition” is Nightclub Game, and it’s written primarily for men who have trouble approaching hot women.
Stealth Attraction basically teaches the reader (or viewer, since the main program is three hours’ worth of videos) how to approach women NOT with pickup lines, but with “stealth attraction” – body language, posture, touching (kino escalation)… that sort of thing.
The goal is simple. It’s to score a one-night stand every single time you use the Stealth Attraction approach. Is it really that effective? We’ll see.
Stealth Attraction is different in the sense that the program consists of videos. It’s not the usual PDF eBook format we’re used to. It also comes with a handful of bonuses that are meant to supplement the videos, but we won’t get into those. (Let’s face it… most of these pickup ebooks have tons of worthless stuff stuffed into bonuses to make them look worth the money. And most of these bonuses are just that… worthless.)
As usual, we’ll look at the good, the bad, and the ugly sides of Stealth Attraction. We’ll also look at how it compares to my reigning “gold standard” for dating and relationship programs. Let’s dive right in.
Stealth Attraction: The “Positive” Review
Stealth Attraction has the right idea (sort of.)
Stealth Attraction techniques focus on body language, posture, and touching can’t be overstated in dating and pickup. This is nonverbal communication. It makes up more than half of the communication going on between a man and a woman.
The Stealth Attraction videos go into real detail – and they’re pretty long, so be sure to take notes as you go. (Note-taking will be very important – I’ll explain why later.) Write down the points that resonate with you and create an action list as you go.
Stealth Attraction is laser-focused.
Stealth Attraction doesn’t claim to be a self-improvement program (it’s not). It doesn’t pretend it’ll help you in serious relationships (it probably won’t). Instead, it focuses on its specialty – Nightclub Game – and does a good job at it.
Its focus resonates with its niche audience and provides them with tons of value. The sample routines and subtle techniques are more clearly demonstrated in the videos.
The production value is impressive.
The videos were very well made. The concepts are fleshed out well, and the techniques are demonstrated carefully. It’s entertaining and informative. It’s enough to make even first-time viewers think: “Wow, that looked easy. I can really do this.”
Here, it is really similar to the Girlfriend Activation System which is also a video-based program.
Stealth Attraction addresses approach anxiety.
Inexperienced men tend to be petrified of approaching women. That goes double for today with all the #MeToo stuff going around. Thankfully, Stealth Attraction is still relevant. It uses a non-awkward, non-creepy way of approaching and meeting new women.
If approaching women is your hang-up, Stealth Attraction will help you a lot.
Stealth Attraction goes deep.
Stealth Attraction has 5 steps:
- Stealth Value
- Stealth Opening
- Stealth Seduction
- Stealth Arousal
- Stealth Extraction
It goes deep into each step – the individual techniques, practices, and tips. It’s so comprehensive that it even has tips on how to handle the morning after! I also like the “Stealth Attraction 33 Words” ebook which can be pretty handy for those who are actively looking to approach girls at public places.
That’s the good, now let’s look at the bad…
Stealth Attraction: The “Negative” Review
Just a couple of drawbacks to point out:
Stealth Attraction is videos only.
This is a personal thing, though I imagine a lot of readers out there will have the same gripe. I’m a reader myself, and I absorb information most easily by reading words on paper or a screen. So it was a big adjustment for me to absorb video instruction.
My main gripe was that whenever I want to backtrack to a particular lesson, tip, or term, it’s difficult. I can’t just press Ctrl+F to find it like I would on a PDF document. Instead, I have to go back a few seconds or minutes at a time until I find it – a tedious process of trial and error.
So if you’re a reader like myself, then I strongly suggest you have a notepad ready when you begin. It’ll help your review tremendously.
Stealth Attraction is not immediately actionable.
Again, it wouldn’t be correct to describe Stealth Attraction to be a self-improvement program (it’s not). And yet it still has self-improvement elements in them (e.g. in Stealth Value). That means you need to do some preparation before putting the program into action.
That being said, since you’re approaching new women, there’s no rush, and you can take your time if necessary.
Stealth Attraction is too narrow.
Stealth Attraction is just about one thing. And that is picking up hot girls at bars and parties. Then you take them home for a bang, then you say goodbye to them in the morning without making them mad. Then you can shower and do it all over again.
That’s fine. Lots of pickup programs out there focus on improving just one area of their audience’s game. It’s just that in my experience, the parts aren’t greater than the whole. If a guy wants to find true success and lasting happiness in the dating scene, he’ll need a more complete approach. Eventually, the rush for short-term gratification gets real old and depressing.
And that leads me to…
Stealth Attraction: The Ugly “Review”
Personally, I’m worried about any newbie to the dating scene who tries out Stealth Attraction. It’s for the same reason I’m worried for any guy who tries out pickup thinking it’ll make him happy. I simply know for a fact that it doesn’t end well, as it didn’t for many of the “founding fathers” of pickup.
Take Neil Strauss, for example. For a time, he was the “godfather” of pickup. Most of today’s mainstream pickup advice descends from his techniques. Unfortunately, he himself didn’t turn out so well:
- He got diagnosed with sex addiction, depression, and many other debilitating conditions
- He dropped out of the dating scene completely to get better
- He eventually “got his act together,” got married, and started a life coaching business
- He got divorced, and now he’s trying to get back into the pickup game
- He apparently “regrets” writing The Game
Granted, Neil’s story isn’t over, and he could yet find his happy ending. It’s just that I look at his story and I know for a fact all the crap he went through was preventable. And I’d like to prevent that kind of crap from as many men as possible.
Any newbie who tries Stealth Attraction will still be clueless about relationships afterward. And he’s bound to make the critical mistake of thinking his pickup tips will work in relationships, as well.
Stealth Attraction vs Shogun Method
In my humble (yet correct!) opinion, men benefit most from a strategy that covers ALL the bases. And that’s the reason why my “gold standard” is what it is.
As of this writing, the gold standard is (still) Shogun Method. It’s written by San Diego-based attraction coach Derek Rake. It’s a program that uses Mind Control to influence women’s thoughts, feelings, and decisions. It’s a fool-proof way to get your desired outcomes in your relationships.
Shogun Method doesn’t cover just Night Game, but the whole deal – all the way to married life. Derek calls this phase “Enslavement.” It’s when a woman is emotionally and mentally “enslaved” to you for life. And it’s also when she’s at her happiest and most contented.
So, as useful as Stealth Attraction is, it doesn’t hold a candle to Shogun Method.
What I Think
Approach anxiety is probably one of the most common challenges men face in the dating scene. Stealth Attraction doesn’t just solve the problem but hits it out of the park. It’s probably the most in-depth program on Nightclub Game I’ve seen in years. There’s also a section on “Stealth Attraction texting” which is good, but not great in my opinion.
If approach anxiety is a plague in your game and you want the cure, Stealth Attraction is a solid bet. If you’re looking for something more holistic, you need other programs.
More importantly, if your goal isn’t just one-night-stands, that changes things. If you want to get into a serious relationship and make it last, then Stealth Attraction won’t cut it. And that’s an important thing to note. That serious relationship (especially marriage) is the endgame for dating. It would be short-sighted not to plan for it as early as you can.
So, if you’re looking for ONLY ONE dating program to use for the rest of your life, I recommend Shogun Method first. When you decide to specialize in Nightclub Game, then try Stealth Attraction.